Comments for Diva Knows Best - Queer, Gay, Bi, Trans, Lesbian Advice Column

Comment on Slings, Arrows & Booty Calls by T

Tue, 28 Mar 2006 07:16:00 +0000

Well.. here we go: breaking up and broken hearts as a result… It took me 2 years to get over my Great Love and still there is no unique advice i can give. It hurts..still. But the thing i want to tell is that u will feel better someday. Just remember that ur broken heart is not a reason for breaking other girls’ hearts. Everytime i woke up in someone’s bed (whose names i hardly remembered) made me feel dirty and more empty that i felt the night before. But i have met a person with whom i really enjoed to wake up in the mornings and with whom i was able to share my pain. Still she has nothing in common who has broken my heart and still i have to asmit that there will be nothing like it in my life anymore. But life brings us many mornings and many chances to be happy. Just slow down look around and try to notice people around u who r able to understand and who will be there for u.
Hmmm… pretty much that’s it.
Hope u havent got bored.

Comment on CyberCheating by Chili

Chili — Fri, 10 Mar 2006 05:18:42 +0000

You seem to want to have your cake and eat it too. You should leave your 11 year old girlfriend and THEN see if your compatible with this surreal cyber girlfriend you’ve got. Since you’re sticking to your long term relationship and sitting and waiting to see what happens with the other it’s obvious you want the best of both worlds. How would you like it if your partner did that to you? Breaking off a relationship, especially one you’ve been in for so long, is difficult but what you’re doing shows no respect for your partner of 11 years and guess what? It shows no respect either for yourself or a future relationship with this cyber girl. Stop the fantasy and get real.

Comment on On the Shelf by Amanda 16

Amanda 16 — Sun, 26 Feb 2006 12:47:52 +0000

I,ve been in a relationship like this before and i think you should give her time, you remember you needed time to think when you figured out you were gay, and so does she, everything will work out the way its supposed too.

Comment on 1 is the Loneliest Number by cj

cj — Sun, 19 Feb 2006 17:41:38 +0000

I posted this originally. I can’t believe it’s still on here. Wow. Well I’ve been with four women since my first post. It has been amazing each time I’ve been with a woman…it’s better than I had imagined and I’m glad I wasnt out there sleeping with every woman but really careful to be with only the right women. Thanks for keeping the post up…it nice to see how much I’ve changed.

Comment on Loveless Marriage by Life-Obscurities

Life-Obscurities — Mon, 13 Feb 2006 03:36:51 +0000

If I could add something to this post…I totally understand how you feel being in the position of being married but have absolutely no feelings for a man. I am actually dating a married woman who got married for all the wrong reasons. She and her husband have been together for nearly three years and he doesn’t have any interest in her sexually. I mean, the guy cares about her and probably still loves her but she definitely doesn’t feel the same way. Its really tough, especially when you’re not out but my best advice in this situation would to be truthful to yourself and your “husband.” Let him know that he deserves better even though you can’t give that to him and let him know that you deserve better too. If it is a loveless marriage, why subject yourselves to such situations when a divorce could avoid any misunderstandings? Thanks for hearing me out and good luck.

Comment on Libi-Do or Libi-Don’t? by christi

christi — Fri, 03 Feb 2006 05:14:45 +0000

I am having this problem and it hurts.I dont know if I should let this relationship go or if I should keep trying.I mean I keep asking myself is it really meant to be.I think that if you are in a relationship and in love sex should be natural.But it is more of a chore than a pleasure.Then I end up wondering what is wrong with me, and my self esteem drops.just thought i would let you know that your noit alone.

Comment on Law and (dis)Order by Danielle_S

Danielle_S — Sat, 14 Jan 2006 12:34:51 +0000

Hi there, I understand where you’re coming from. I’m sorry to hear that you don’t like what you’re studying. However, you’ll get through it and if you want, you can always change your program.
How are your parents taking you coming out? Mine don’t know and I’m scared to tell them. If you want, please feel free to e-mail me at anytime. Take Care

Comment on Trans-ition by Scarlen

Scarlen — Fri, 13 Jan 2006 21:54:25 +0000

Don’t worry about what other people think! You go be you and forget everyone else. I don’t know you, but I’m sending lots of love and support for you. I’m also sending blessings. I know how it feels to be different from everyone else…I’m just realising I’m probably a lesbian, plus I’m a goth. I live in a real small town full of closed minded people, and there’s some days when I wish I wasn’t different, but those days are few and are shadowed by the good days when I’m happy with who I am. So take the good with the bad. Love yourself and you’ll find someone to love.
Many, many blessings and bright days ahead are what I wish for you.
Love,
Scarlen
*HUGS*

Comment on On the Shelf by tenth_crystal

tenth_crystal — Mon, 02 Jan 2006 20:19:49 +0000

I think that you should be gentle with her. If you push her too hard about getting over her fear, you might just end up hurting her. Maybe she could feel out whether or not her friends are “gay-friendly” or not? I see nothing wrong with waiting a little while for her. And while we do rarely end up with our first loves, we do sometimes. If she wants a bit of time, I would give her that, but keep in contact with Her. you’d be surprised at just how much you can do and it still be considered “just friends” by other people.

Comment on Not Bi-ing It by An Angel

An Angel — Sun, 01 Jan 2006 16:17:42 +0000

If you believe you have supressed feelings for anyone, male or female, wouldn’t be telling you that this marriage probably wasn’t the right choice. I am married mother of two and have become aware of being queer about three years ago. I have told my husband several times, were almost devorced, but I couldn’t bear what it was doing to him. I am still married, occationally cheat, and can’t bear what this is doing to me. Listen to your heart, even if it means upheaval, know happiness, for me.