Category Archives: Questioning Sexuality

Not Bi-ing It

Q:I am a 24 year old married woman (I have been married to my husband for a year and a half). I recently realized I have been ignoring my feelings towards women aside for many years and now don’t know what to do about them. I feel as though I can never be complete with a man. I have an emptiness inside that I can no longer handle. I’ve never been with a woman but know that is what I am missing in my life. I have expressed these feelings to my husband and as expected, he didn’t take the news well. I have decided, for his sake, to push these feelings down again and continue to hide from them. I know what I am doing is wrong, I know I am living a lie but how can I leave my husband on a whim? What happens if I leave him, experiment with women and find I was wrong? Could it be that I am a true bisexual who strongly believes in monogamy but will never be satisfied with one partner?
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Snog Fog

Q: I don’t know if this is an advice thing, but I hope it is. I recently kissed my best mate, full on snog, and now my head is completely mssed up. I don’t know if I’m gay, bi, straight or what!!! Help.
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U a Gay?

Q: How do you know if you are a gay or Lesbian?
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Het-Curious???

Q: HHMMM..I’ve been having these rather disturbing erotic dreams with (shreek,scream!) MEN in them, and even more upsetting…I’m having a fabulous time playing penis gymnastics. Problems is, I’m a happily attached lesbian of 5 years and more than happy with our sex life. I tell my partner the dreams because I feel so damn guilty, and she has begun worrying that I’m going to run off with some MAN ( huh!) Is this fairly common? Is it a case of dreaming about want I can’t have or are they really nightmares????????? Please help!
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Man! or Mouse?

Q: I began coming out to myself as a lesbian in 1991 and have not questioned that identity since 1994 and still don’t. I am 32 years old. Because of a seriously disabling chronic pain condition, which often keeps me homebound, I’ve only had one serious girlfriend and a few other dates over the years, but none in over two years. A few months ago, I was asked out by a man, which shocked me a bit because it hadn’t occurred to me in a long time that a man might find me attractive (although I am usually assumed to be straight from how I look). Anyway, I took 6 weeks to myself before accepting that, indeed, I am attracted to this human being, who happens to be male, and that that does not have to negate my identity in any way or cast doubt upon my very strong preference for women. I have been dating him for two months (with complete honesty about who I am) and am in the early stages of love.
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After Game Shame

Q: im a confused teenage girl..im 17 and ive been with 1 female partner…after i felt ashamed and she wanted to still be with me but i didnt feel like being with her. i have sexual feelings for females but this expierience made me wonder if i really want to be with girls. whats wrong with me?
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God Forbid She’s Healthy

Q: Please help I’ve been in a state of confusion for a few years now, I find myself not attracted to one particular gender. What I find attractive is a person’s personality and their looks, gender isn’t a main factor when it comes to me beening attracted. Does this mean that I’m bi or am I just totally outta touch with myself and totally confused??
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