Category Archives: Long-Term Relationships

Bed Death – It’s Not Just for Lesbians Anymore!

Q: I’ve been in a relationship with a great guy for 7 1/2 years. He’s a great guy, my gets friend and enjoy spending my time with him. We love each other very much. Sex is a problem. The last … Continue reading

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Stand By Your Man

Q: I am a 43-year old gay male who has been in a loving, stable, monogamous relationship with George for the past 17 years. In fact, we celebrated our 15th anniversary with a Holy Union, performed at our church (Morning Star MCC).
My problem (I should say “our” problem) stems from some of the other males who try to “cop a feel” and on one occasion, tried to get us to separate. We have tried talking with these people. We have tried public humiliation, and (unfortunately) even a sharp slap across the face (after a rather painful crotch grab).
Some of these people STILL refuse to believe that we are a couple who are in love with each other and will be forever. I guess my question is, how can we make these people stop bothering us?

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Yer’ Cheatin’ Haaart

Q: i got myself involved with this one co-worker who was married, in all the years with the past females i never knew what love was until i actually got to know her (co-worker). i fell in love with her, gave her my heart to the fullest, didnt care what i had at home, or what i could mess up, being involved with this person. After a few months – she claimed she too loved me, i left my husband aft 18yrs of marriage, she too left behind a husband.
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PDA Q&A

Q: My girlfriend has issues with holding hands, kissing, etc, in public. This bugs me! Part of being out and proud, in my opinion is being a normal couple. I think its just that she doesn’t want to deal with the people looking askance at her, but ya can’t live your life worried about what other people think! I love all that romantic stuff like holding hands and spontaneous hugging and whatnot! I am not going to push her into stuff she isn’t comfy with, but I don’t want to have to be stealth about our relationship! I am bothered because it is just so contrary to Pride, which I value and work hard for. Any suggestions??
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CyberCheating

Q: I am in a 11 year lesbian relationship (33 years old) and have met another woman(34 years old) ONLINE who is in a 15 year lesbian relationship. We have been carrying on an affair for a year via ONLINE and phone calls everyday, but have never met. Both of us are totally in love and are planning to met within the next 3 months. We have even planned on leaving our current wives (obviously something is missing from both our relationships) once we meet and make sure we are physically compatible. We have never met but LOVE EACH OTHER SO MUCH. Am I crazy for even thinking of leaving my girlfrind of 11 years for a woman I’ve never met? I love her heart, mind and soul……
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Her 3 Sons

Q: My girlfriend of three years (we don’t live together) has 3 teenage children who, naturally, are the priorities in her life. I often feel like a distant fourth priority. This leads to resentment on my part and intense jealousy. I know this is wrong of me, but how do I deal with these emotions? I love her more than anything, and I love her kids…but I just want to be first once in a while. What do I do?
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Dear Joan Letter?

Q: Im 18 ive been together with my girl for 2 1/2 yrs. She left to the army. I see her once in awhile, but now I havent seen her for about 5 months. We talk eveyday and all but now I’m feeling like i want to see other people, but yet i dont want to lose her. I dont know whether to just cheat on her or tell her to have an open relationship.
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Straight or Mate?

Q: I have a girlfriend and everything who I love to death, but for some reason I’ve grown this attraction to a straight girl, and I dont know what to do. I like this girl a lot but I have to keep reminding myself that she’s straight, even though we have such a good time together. I can’t get her off my mind.
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