Category Archives: Dating & New Relationships

Love Bytes

Q: Dear Diva (bow), I met this girl a day and a half ago on the net. She is from where I am originally from, about 1,000 miles a day. We talked and it seemed we clicked like you wouldn’t believe. She now is asking me to come down and I am almost ready to say yes. My family will know where I’m going …and I have spoken with her on the phone so I know it’s not a pervo man. I am just really curious. AM I ALSO CRAZY????
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Poly What?

Q: My girlfriend won’t make a commitment with me for monogamy, but she says she’s true to me. I’ve been faithful, too. What should I do if she keeps refusing?
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Summer Lovin’

Q: i met this girl when i was away. Now before we got to know each other, she had never been with a girl or even thought about it. Anyway, me and her hit it off and i think i really fell for her. We were together for a week before i went home to ny and she went home to florida. well we keep in touch but i havent seen her in about 3 weeks. I know i care for her a lot beacuase when we kissed, i felt the sparks. But the problem is, is that she leaves for germany in 2 days and i’m worried i will not see her again. What should i do? Should i keep the hope or move on? please help!
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Thank Goddess for the Flu

Q: I recently met the woman of my dreams. Or so I thought. I had agreed after talking to her for a month to gi visit her in Florida. I am in San Antonio. I got sick and could not go. She did not care if I was sick and told me either to come anyway or lose her. I told her that I was not coming. She wanted me to come live with her and never speak to my friends or family ever again and never visit San Antonio again. I told her to get lost so she tried to kill herself. She is now in the hospital in Florida in Intensive Care. She is in a coma. Her psycho friends are harassing me online. She has my parents address and Telephone#. I have recieved several threats from her friends that say this is all my fault. What should I do?
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Carrot on a String

Q: I fell in love with a woman for the first time a year ago, completely & unconditionally. She had been in a long term lesbian relationship previously.(I’m over 40 & have always been close to women, but had no lover.) She was involved with someone else in another country. We became best friends, worked together, traveled together, called each other everyday & spent many nights at each others home. We had a relationship like a couple without the sex/love. The long distance romance broke off & our relationship continued to intensify. She however also flirted with friends in our immediate circle, eventually I demanded she tell what was happening. Turns out she is having two affairs & would have let me find out by allowing myself & her lovers to attend the same events. I broke off our relationship. Now I’ve lost a friend, have a broken heart & broken trust & I don’t know where to go from here. Help?
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Love…and Marriage?

Q: Ok well im 19 years old and i have been w/ my girlfriend for about 13 months. I love her w/ all my heart and i know that she is the one. We have been living together for about 4 months. We fight like any other couple, but we are happy even when we argue. I am ready to get married and i want to ask her so badly. I’ve picked out a ring and everything. But sometimes she says “ohh getting married is a waste of time”, “it’s just a piece of paper.” And other times she says that she would like to. But she has a problem w/ me being 19 (i’ll be 20 in April). She thinks im young and doesn’t want me to regret it. We already have commitment rings but that’s not enough for me. I want to be able to say this is my wife. Should i just go for it. I mean i am ready and so in love w/ her or should i wait until i can tell it’s something that she will really want to do?
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Going the Distance

Q: i’m still in love with my ex, who, in typical lesbian fashion, says she just wants to be my best friend. She is dating her ex who lives 200 miles away. They see each other a couple times a month, but we see each other about once a day. She tells me she just wants to be friends, but she says it with her hand on my knee. Aaaak! I have tried not seeing her so much, not calling so much, not answering the phone when she calls (god bless caller id) but i can’t help the fact that she is my best friend and i am in love with her. help!
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Take Me. Damnit!

Q: I have a big question here. I’m in my late twenties. I’ve known I was gay for quite a long time, but I’ve never actually *been* with a woman. Add to that the fact that all the women I meet in my area want someone who’s financially successful. I’m financially struggling and trying to launch my career. So I’m not this “perfect, experienced lesbian”. Whenever I talk to people, they just tell me reasons why the other woman is justified in not wanting me: “I wouldn’t want to get with a ‘virgin’, either” because of all the things they assume I’m going to be like.” I want a relationship, but I half feel like I have to go to some bar, get drunk, and get laid the first time just so I can say I had that “first lesbian experience”. Diva, I’ve HAD that “first lesbian experience”; I’ve fallen in love, I’ve craved, I’ve desired. I’ve just never been lucky enough to meet someone to desire who was also gay. Do you have any advice for me?
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Mind the Gap

Q: I am a 23 year old woman who has fallen deeply in love with a 40 year old women. We are very good friends and continue to get closer. I do not know if she is interested in me as anything more than a friend. She has dropped a few hints that she might be… Should I pursue her and risk the friendship?
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Playah’ Hatah’

Q: ok, there is this girl i really like at work, we have gone out a few times and she was sort of resistant when i asked her out. I really feel as though she is sort of intimidated by me and feels like i am a “player”. I was shocked when she allowed me to drive her to the airport to go home for a week. I feel like she likes me but at times she backs away, mostly when it comes down to us hanging out at my house or hers. I sometimes catch her staring at me, and the other day when we were talking i felt like she kept on looking down at my lips. Should i just fucking kiss her, because i am not sure if that will scare her away??
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