Category Archives: Coming Out

Right Answer. Wrong Question.

Q: I have a GIANT crush on this wonderfully brilliant and painfully cute girl. From the moment that I first saw her (more than a year ago) I could not stop thinking about her. I also have a boyfriend of 8 years. Over the past year she and I have become friends and hang out once or twice a month. I crave her time and attention but try to act cool so that she can’t tell. I wish I could spend every moment with her. I DON’T WANT her to like me because then I would actually have to face up to the fact that I am already in a relationship. I WANT her to like me, because well, I’m human. Should I just let things keep going as they are (which drives me nuts), find out how she feels then make a decision, dump my guy because he deserves someone who will pay him full attention, or just move away fast?
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The Silent Treatment

Q: me and my girlfriend have been together for 14 mos. and i want everyone to know we are together and she isn’t ready too…i’m trying to be patient but its difficult sometimes…i try not to pressure her about it…but what else can i do? i feel like she is ashamed of me.
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Out of the Closet, Into the Box

Q: My girlfriend and I have been together for over ten years now and the question that I have is what makes a lesbian couple accepted by other lesbians? We have never found a group of lesbians that accept us for being another lesbian couple. What happens is that we are always told we don’t seem ‘gay’. I am a woman who is in love with another woman. We have been together longer than most straight married couples I know. To me we are lesbians…right? Help!
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The Closet Case

Q: should i remain with my wife even though she is very in the closet and does not admit to people what we are (together, partners)? this is causing a lot of trouble in our relationship. it is always coming up. i don’t want to hide… to hide means you are ashamed… and i feel i need to be with someone who is strong enough to admit to people who she is and who i am. she is 39, and i am 25.
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