Category Archives: Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Letting Go of the Gone

Q: I was wondering what to do about this girl that I gave a year and a half of my life too. I met her 1 night at a club and she had a gf at the time but we still danced and it was awesome, it was 1 of those movie moments….you know like time stood still kind of thing. we actually started dating a few months after that, to give a small background she was telling me that her and her gf were no longer together, but they were.
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Slings, Arrows & Booty Calls

Q: My heart was broken, and I can’t get over it. I keep hookin up wit lots of chicky’s but they are hardly the thing to fill my void, what will help?
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Silence is Yella’

Q: I met this girl a week ago..we’ve only seen each other 3 times since then. We made out all those times that I saw her and she has told me how much she likes me. I really don’t like her that much anymore and I’m not sure what to do. Do I tell her I don’t really like her OR is there really nothing to tell her since we haven’t really spoken about where we are going with this thing.,…
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Out! Out! Out!

Q: I’m having trouble trusting my girlfriend. She has lied to me about messing w/ other girls but I gave her the benefit of a doubt and stayed with her. She lied to me once more, recently. Now every time we speak either I’m mad at her or she is mad at me. That’s not all. I have a best friend that I’m in love with and that’s in love with me and everything is going great with us. I have been best friends for a year now. I’m trying to decide if I should be with her or stay with my girlfriend. What should I do?
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The Shadow of “The One”

Q: When I was 19 I met the girl/woman of my dreams. I had always been attracted to other women and had a few flings before I met her. She was 23 at the time and positive that she’d never been attracted to another woman. It didn’t take long for that to change… A little under a year into our friendship, we had an affair and she fell madly in love with me. She was convinced, as I was about her, that I was “the one.” Our problem was this: I was only 20 years old at the time and not solid enough spiritually or emotionally to make a “rest of my life” commitment to this woman. She agreed to be patient and we had an off again on again affair for 5 years. Throughout all those years, we dated other people and she always ruined her other relationships because she told them that she was in love with me. Long story longer…I eventually made a commitment to her that I was not ready to make. We went from roommates to married couple overnight. It didn’t take long for me to get claustrophobic and call the whole thing off. That was two years ago and I’m still having trouble getting over her. I believe I did the right thing by not staying in a relationship I couldn’t be 100% for but I miss her so much I can’t breathe. How do you get over “the one”? I know we’ll never be together again, that would just be too cruel to her…but I’m afraid all other women live in her shadow.
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Love & Math

Q: ok, been seeing my g/f for 6months now. Long distance relationship. Before me she was seeing a guy but broke up with him at christmas to be with me. She spent New Year with me out here but the day she went back, she slept with him. After that she moved out of his place and he eventually moved. Now she says she still loves him, loves both of us in fact and that she saw him a few times before he left but they never did anything. She said she told me as it had been really getting to her and she wants us to be together but shes scared he will come back and she wont know what to do. She still talks to him on IM and they talk on the phone occasionally. I don’t know what to do, i want to be with her but don’t want to feel second best.
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Best Friend = Girlfriend?

Q: my girlfriend and i have been together for about 15 mths now. we had lived together for over a yr. i love her so much but im not in love with her. her parents doesnt like me at all, she makes me change my ways and looks for her parents. i dont want to loose her because she is like a bestfriend to me, she says if we break up we wont be friends. i dont know what to do.
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Staying Friends

Q: Breaking up is hard to do. We’ve been a couple for 9 yrs. Now that we’ve morphed from lovers into friends (sex has died) I’ve got to move on. What’s the kindest way to handle this so we can remain friends? She seems quite content with the status quo, and I think this will come as a shock to her. I see so many nasty divorces. I need tips on preserving the good between us because she is still very dear to me, and I’d hate to lose the friendship
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Phone Phoney

Q: My ex and I broke up nearly 2 years ago. She broke up with me saying I deserved better that I would thank her for it one day. The thing is she will call me for advice about her new loves what to do, how to handle certain situations and in general calls for advice on any topic. Why does she do this? She knows she truly broke my heart when she left and sometimes I still break down and cry when she calls for her phone counseling. I’m still in love with her and she knows! What should I do? Is she getting an ego boost by me crying? Its like it doesn’t bother her to know how I’m still hurting she just continues to ask for my advice. HELP do you have any advice for me? It’s tearing me apart to listen to her women stories!
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Sticks & Stones

Q: So this girl left me a couple of months ago and I can’t get her off my mind. I think about her constantly and she says I make her sick to her stomach. I really think she was the one and I loved her like I’d never been hurt before. I don’t take relationships lightly, but do you have some advice for a wounded romantic?
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