I do. Do you?

Q: I want to know if, like you’ve had a friend for about five years and your bi then how would you ask her to marry you? Because I am totally in love with my best friend and she doesn’t even know I am bi. Thanks for reading this.


Diva Says: My goodness… I’d have to say that getting down on bended knee might be a bit of a shock to your friend for her first insight into your feelings for her. Let’s slow down a bit.
Now, first things first… Where is your friend in her life? Is she married? Dating? Happily involved with someone? If so, the best thing to do is to keep quiet. Love is about doing what’s best for everyone involved, especially the one you love. If telling her the way you feel will force her into a situtation that is uncomfortable at the very least, then the best thing you can do is love her as your best friend and try to move on.
HOWEVER, if she is not currently involved with anyone, then the only roadblocks you have are your fear and her reaction. I would suggest that you find a way to talk to her about your feelings… Don’t overwhelm her with flowers, a ring and a wedding proposal. If you’ve known her as long as five years, you probably know a great deal about her. The best thing you can do is be sincere, understated and calm. Tell her what you feel and don’t expect an immediate response. She may need to think about it for a while, or… she may know immediately that it’s not what she wants. But, if it’s meant to be, it will be.
Be patient and be ready to accept her answer, whether or not it turns out to be exactly what you want to hear.
Good luck, dear.
Diva

This entry was posted in Friends & Queer-mmunity. Bookmark the permalink.

Comments are closed.