Q: I am BI-sexual. I know this, and that is the problem, I am the only person who knows that I am. I really would like to tell my friends but I am really afraid that they are going to freak out. Plus I really don’t know how to tell them. Please help!! I am tired of keeping this a secret but I am not sure how to approach the situation.
Diva Says: It’s always hard coming out, but you’ll find that the people who are truly your friends, after some initial jitters, may truly surprise you with their acceptance. There is always the chance that someone may have a harder time dealing with it than others, and if you look inside yourself, you probably already know who will and who won’t.
The important thing is to not apologize for it when you come out. Present it as something you’re proud of, something that is a part of you and something that you embrace. If you present it in a positive light, it won’t be as hard for them to accept. We all set the “tones” for our conversations, whether we realize it or not. You can have an amazing amount of impact on the behavior of those around you if you simply present things in a way that makes it easy for them to accept.
“Guess what!? I just figured out something that is going to make my life so much easier. I’m bi-sexual! Isn’t that fantastic? That means I have the whole world as my oyster – I can fall in love because I love the person, and not their gender! It’s an amazing gift!”