Q: Well, here’s my problem. For the past few months, I’ve had several straight girls come up to me and tell me that they wanted to experience what being with a woman was like. So, not being committed, I agreed to to giving them that first taste. Now, not long ago, a good friend of mine who I have been in love with for quite a while started questionning her sexuality. Also, on the occasion of us being alone together, she admitted to having feelings for me. Now, I am sick and tired of falling for bi-curious girls who end up cheating on you with a man. What am I to do? Let it go? Thank you in advance.
Diva Says: Well, first of all… your first sentence should give you a clue as to part of your problem. Read this very carefully: “For the past few months, I’ve had several straight girls come up to me and tell me that they wanted to experience what being with a woman was like.” Now, let me pull out a few elements. Straight girls. Experience. What it’s like. Do you see what I’m getting at? You’re talking about yourself like you’re a carnival ride. “Hey! I’ve never been in an upside-down ride before! I wonder what it’s like?”
Now, if you’re fine with that, more power to you. Can’t hurt a girl’s ego to be a novelty now and then. I don’t see a problem at all with it as long as you’re practicing safer sex.
But then, there’s this sentence: “Now, I am sick and tired of falling for bi-curious girls who end up cheating on you with a man.” Pulling out a few more elements. Falling for. Bi-curious. Cheating on you.
Umm… honey, nothing about what you said in the first few sentences says “relationship” – it says, fling, one-time-experience. It says to me that you knew full-well that these women wanted nothing more than the experience of being with another woman, not that they wanted, specifically, to enter into any long-term relationship with you. It sounds to me as if you knew that full-well.
In the circumstance of your friend, it’s the only place I hear mention of “feelings”. You, in love with her. She, confused and with feelings for you. This sounds very different from the other straight or bi-curious women. I recommend that you discuss your feelings with your friend and find out where her head is. I also recommend that you lay of the, er… tutoring… for a while and take care of yourself and your needs. Sideline your libido and pay some attention to your heart.