Q: I have a girlfriend and everything who I love to death, but for some reason I’ve grown this attraction to a straight girl, and I dont know what to do. I like this girl a lot but I have to keep reminding myself that she’s straight, even though we have such a good time together. I can’t get her off my mind.
Diva Says: My opinion on this has very little to do with the sexual orientation of the object of your crush – straight, queer, bi or whatever – the fact that you’re so dramatically attracted to someone indicates that there is probably something missing in your relationship, and that’s where your focus should be. We’re all human, and I doubt there’s ever been anyone who has made it through a long-term relationship without at least a minor fascination with someone else, but I can tell you one thing, the answer to your relationship restlessness is not going to be found in someone else’s calvin klein’s. To me, it sounds like your crush on this girl might be a little more intense than that, and when that happens, it usually means you aren’t being fulfilled on some level within your romantic relationship.
My advice to you is to take a long look at your relationship and find out what is missing. Are you intimate enough with your girl? (and I don’t mean that just in terms of your sexuality) — Do you spend quality time together? Do you talk about your day or do you just come home and watch TV together? Are you taking care of your relationship? Are you working on keeping the passion alive? I’m sure if you sit down and consider your relationship, you will find some areas that need work. We all have them. If you turn your focus away from the straight girl and move it back to your lover and expend the energy you put out on fantasizing about the untouchable into turning the touchable into a fantasy, I can almost guarantee you that the results will be far more positive. And if they aren’t, perhaps a reconsideration of your current relationship is in order. Maybe you’ve grown apart and it’s time for a change. In either case, focusing on something outside your relationship will never get you any closer to figuring out what’s wrong.